Episodes

This morning I had an "episode" with my son Sekou Junior.  He did not want to go to school this morning and began kicking and screaming against the idea, right on our way out the door.  This is an example of one of those trying moments that, as a parent, you must dig deep inside and find your inner peace and strength to deal with the unacceptable behavior being displayed in front of you.  I am a veteran at this now, I am proud to say, although I must admit that I am waiting patiently for some recommendations on curtailing his negative behavior from the regional center.  I am interested to see after his 30-day assessment, how things may change around here when Junior is placed on a specific behavior plan.

The person assessing him has already informed me that he acts out when seeking attention.  Although this may sound like a no-brainer, I actually did not realize the dimensions of this reality.  His attention-seeking behaviors come from a loving place -- a place about which he hasn't the vocabulary to describe, but he has the sense to act upon the feelings he is experiencing from it.  I appreciate very much the enlightened opinions of the behavior specialist, as looking in from the outside always helps; but more importantly, I appreciate the insight that shows that my son feels, thinks, loves and needs.  He is as normal as any other human being by seeking the attention that keeps us alive and thriving, and by resenting any incidents that may take this attention away.  In fact, his desires sound so familiar that I am not sure I can name a person void of them; people just handle this need in different manners.  Perhaps autistic children cannot curb their feelings as much as we can, but considering the source, are these feelings all that abnormal?  I don't think so.  Once again I arrive at the conclusion that my autistic son acts more normally than one may think or even witness, and that is a fantastic thought to begin my day.  I thought I'd share this thought with the rest of you, Super Parents, along with my wish for you and yours to have a wonderful Tuesday on this lovely May day!  Peace, love and happiness to you all.